It's my Mom's Birthday. She's checking in at 78 today.

I called my mom this morning to congratulate her for making it this far. I'm not sure she knew it was me. My mom is the original good one. It's a very exclusive club. If you have such character and honor you may be deemed "one of the good ones". It isn't easily given but it can be quickly taken away. This isn't an issue because the good ones have a strong soul and spirit. This bestowment can be earned by small adults as well. Only two small humans have had the honor.

Back to my mom. A few back in the day snaps to celebrate my mom's Birthday.

Easter Sunday

One of the down sides to being single at this moment in time, is today. I always loved Easter. Growing up it was new Easter clothes, egg hunts, Easter Baskets and Easter Dinner. The past few years I've loved watching kids look forward to the same things. The past few years I've loved watching kids Easter morning look for their baskets their mom hid the night before. Then digging through the baskets to discover the great things their mother gave such great thought to.

It's very difficult knowing someone else is living that memory today. It's very difficult knowing that someone else was chosen to live all the new memories. The biggest challenge in c6 is starting to create my own new memories and move some of those old memories out. That will be an on going project.

Today I have no plans. I did go to mass this morning. In my world of no expectations I haven't been disappointed today. That's not honest but it's the front I'm going with these days. There was talk of brunch but those plans fell through a few minutes ago. Going to church this morning was something I wanted or need to do and because I needed to at least feel the spirit of Easter if I wasn't going to share Easter with anyone today.

This is why I wake up every day

Learning something new everyday is alone worth getting out of bed. My brother was driving through Raleighwood today on his way to Jacksonville, NC to see his daughter and stopped for lunch. His lovah made the trip as well. I learned at lunch today that I use too many words when communicating with women. For example to me "yes, I'll be there, I have to..." means yes, I'll be there. According to Lovah,"yes,, I'll be there, I have to,,," does not mean that I'll be there it means a conformation needs to be re-established prior to the previously
re-established time. And what I should have said was simply "yes I'll be there". I can neither confirm or deny the validity of this advice but the way my mind works it will go through an exhaustive vetting.

Reason number 2 for getting up today, my horoscope "Have faith that the worst is behind you, because it is. The future is very bright". I put zero faith or belief in horoscopes unless they're as stellar as today's.

Who wouldn't google someone before they went out?

I'm not sure if I require therapy or if searching a person on Google is normal. It's kind of a passive way of stalking. Or maybe it's smart? Who knows?

With a name you can find their Facebook page, Linkedin profile, photos on Flickr, any road races they've run, Twitter page, professional or athletic organizations they may belong to, if they write a blog, phone number, home address and where they work. There isn't any real reason for this post just thinking out loud.

Date 1 | Bohemian59

In my profile I end by saying "having completed a marathon gets you into the bonus round". It's a hold over line from my last Match experience. Well Bohemian59 wrote saying she made it to the bonus round. She has run in several marathons and 1/2s. After a couple of emails back and forth it was time to get this dating party started. Aesthetically speaking my expectations were low but I decided to go ahead and ask her out.

I met Sherry at Vavace (her choice) for an adult beverage. On paper we have a lot in common. So we meet and my first impression was that my aesthetic expectations were met. She was nice and the conversation was easy. There wasn't any chemistry so there isn't a need to go out again. But I'm glad I went.
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I've received a few emails from women in Wake Forest. Right now I can't even pretend to be interested even though 2 were of exceptional quality. Maybe I can put in a rider in my profile saying if you live in Haritage please move along, there's nothing to see here.
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Next up is Vickievale7 who recently moved to Raleigh from NYC-of all places. She went to Duke and got an MBA from UNC. Stay tuned...

New situations create new realities...

After being with the love of my life for nearly 5 years a breakup caused my reality to change in a dramatic fashion. I lost a truly great family and the regrets will last a life time I'm afraid. Now 5 months later I face a new reality, dating again. Working alone, I don't get a lot of traffic here in c6 so the talent pool of single women is fairly shallow. Now for the third time I'm back on Match. It's hardly my choice but I need to start living again. I had great success the last time so here I am again, this time as a SWM 52 in search of...

I bought the one month plan for a test drive. This is day 3. I've received 4 emails and two winks or pokes or nudges. Here again a new reality has surfaced, the 4 kind women that emailed all look like my aunt, and not in a good way. They took the time to write and some of the things they said were very flattering. I should really send a response but what? Is a "it's not you it's me" form letter in bad taste? I'm sure I'll be on the receiving end of a few "what are you high?" kind of responses but we're not talking about how I'm received.

I certainly don't like having to be in the position to be on Match but the reality is I have to start living again and all the hoping, praying, wishing and nudging hasn't made any difference so here we are with my new reality. Let the living begin.